Thanksgiving Frustrations

I think Thanksgiving, is hard for a lot of people. Mainly people with eating disorders. This year, it really wasn't as hard as before, but it was still very difficult.

Me and my dad starting cooking at around noon, so the food didn't really get done until four. I had a chocolate vita muffin in the morning and then half a naked juice smoothie and then ate little tiny bites of things here and there.

But when it was actually time to eat, I didn't really want to. Sure, I only made four things but still, it's a lot for me. I mainly rely on frozen meals like morning star or Amy's that have the calories posted on the back. I didn't know the calorie content of these at all, which really scared me. But, I ate it. I had; 1 slice vegan lasagna which was totally amazing, 1 piece cornbread, 1 slice vegan red velvet cake, and 2 bites sweet potatoes. Then my mom brought back pies later, so I had two more bites of red velvet cake, a slice of pumpkin cheesecake, and a slice of pudding pie that I had made the day before.

I wasn't really feeling guilty up until my mom got home with the pies. But, I wanted to eat them today because the ED has a certain, rule. When you "binge" it has to be one day. You have to get it all over with in one day. No extra binges tomorrow or you will be a fat pig. Sad, isn't it? I didn't binge. Sure, I ate more sweets but that's just how I am. I like sweet things. They're really good, which is why I never really cook that much. But, I'm going to start. I made the vegan lasagna and it was really good! I can't wait to make other vegetarian/vegan meals.

So, I guess it was a good Thanksgiving. The guilt was the worst part, but I got through it. I ate less today, but I might eat more tomorrow.

But, I did figure out one thing. I have to actually give people a chance. Z and I have been friends for a long time, but we've only really hung out in school. And not very much either. So on Monday, she invited me to go shopping on black Friday. I was skeptical at first, but I decided to go. And I had a lot of fun! I was a little dizzy from not eating much, but I had a smoothie and was a little better. Next time I'll eat a good lunch so I'm.. fully "there". Like, I almost wasn't there. You know? I was dizzy, so it was hard to focus on things.

Another reason why anorexia isn't worth it. I can't wait for the new clinic on Monday. I really need them!

Until then, I'll just have to try to cope. I'm just glad I'm busy this weekend so I don't think about food too much and sit in my room being miserable. Today I was busy all day shopping with Z, and tomorrow, Me and my mom are going to get my little cousin in Wisconsin. She's so cute! She doesn't really have any good girl role models (her parents are divorced & her dads fiance is mean and drinks a lot) so we try to hang out with her a lot. We're going to Trader Joe's, going back to my house & decorating gingerbread houses, then seeing a movie and bringing her home. I'm excited! It's going to be fun(:

I hope everyone had a good Thanksgiving!

Choices

Each choice we make affects our lives. I've been thinking about Thanksgiving lately, and I've decided not to go. Well.. okay my mom helped me decide that. When I really think about it, it hurts me rather than helps me. There's really no reason for me to go. It's always on my mom's side of the family, and I don't connect with anyone on that side. I used to have cousins to hang out with, but we don't really talk much anymore. The age gap is too far. They're 3-5 years younger than me.

So, what's happened the past few years is, I feel so alone whenever I go to my mom's side of the family. My mom talks and laughs with the aunts, my dad.. I think he eats or something, and I don't know what to do. I usually pace upstairs by myself, text people, eat m&m's, trail mix, and pop, play with the dogs, and feel sad. One of my aunt's always teases me about guys. And it makes me feel awful.

The truth is, I haven't really ever had a boyfriend. Yeah, I've had my heart broken and come very close to having one, but nope, I haven't. That doesn't bother me very much, until I come around her. She makes me feel so awful (without realizing it) and I feel like such a loser for not having a boyfriend.

There's not really much to eat there for me either. I've never really liked any meat (besides chicken when it's breaded which can easily be replaced by morning star chik'n) so my plate usually consists of: 2-3 rolls with butter, some jello thing, and mashed potatoes. Then I usually eat 2 pieces of pie. And maybe another roll.

So, nothing good comes out of it. I don't mean to be all negative, but I don't want to go if I'm just going to hurt my heart. As in, not eat anything the day after thanksgiving. Lately when I eat less, It's been hard to breathe. It's been hard to move, all my energy gets drained out of me and it's even hard to type! Luckily I had a good dinner tonight.

So, my mom is going to Thanksgiving at my uncle's house and my dad is staying home with me. I'm going to bake 2 desserts for them and my dad is going to bake 2 desserts for them. My mom is gonna bring them over and me and my dad are gonna have a vegetarian/vegan thanksgiving. That way, I can still challenge myself without feeling overly guilty, alone, and sad.

But, one problem is that I don't know what to tell my mom's side of the family. I can't tell them I'm sick, I'm making desserts for them. I've considered telling them I have a broken leg or something like that, but I'm going shopping on Black Friday with a friend and they might see me. What do you guys think I should tell them? I can't tell them the truth. It would just be too hard. I know they already suspect it, but telling them would just make everything weird.

Okay this post is getting way too long. But hopefully everything will work out. I'm counting down the days to go to the new clinic. I really need help. But everything is going to be okay(: I'll have a good & healthy thanksgiving and finallyy go shopping on black Friday the next day. I'll meet with the new clinic and get the extra help I need. I'm going to be okay.