Monday, December 6, 2010

Skinny is a compliment?

This weekend, was probably the best in a long time. I hung out with J and C (I know I said I wouldn't hang out with them.. but I'm being careful) and we had a lot of fun! J only stayed over at my house for 3 hours because of babysitting but she texted me after she left and said that she had a lot of fun and she wanted to hang out again soon.

I was a little worried about just me and C hanging out by ourselves because we didn't have much fun in the past just by ourselves but I was surprised because we had a lot of fun too! We went to the mall and didn't buy anything, but we had a lot of fun just walking around and acting crazy in the mattress store.

I was worried that I would eat more when I was with them, but then I thought I don't even care if I eat more when I'm with friends! I don't want to be weak, tired, ready to faint, etc. I ate more on Saturday and I was okay with it. I had a really good dinner, but I think I might of ate too much too fast because I didn't feel good for a while after that. Maybe next time I'll just have to eat a little less or not eat everything in one sitting.

This weekend was fun, but one thing that confused me was that being skinny was considered a compliment. I don't really see how it is. I was complimented on how I was really skinny on my formspring last night and a lot in the past too. But how is skinny better than any other body type? We're all different, and that's whats makes us special. If every person was really skinny, I think the world would even be a little boring.

For me, I would rather be complimented on my personality. It seems like the world only focuses on the outward appearance, but I look at the heart. Hopefully, the world will change one day.


  1. I agree. I hate the compliment you are so thin because it reinforces my ED thinking and it makes me think oh, they just like me because I am thin. It puts a lot of pressure on me. So I get where you are coming from.

  2. (I guess I'm still here...hehe.)
    I'm so glad you had a good weekend! And I'm glad you were able to eat and not be too weak to enjoy your time. Don't worry about feeling a little sick after eating; it takes a while for our bodies to get used to more food after we've starved them for so long. =)

    Yeah, I agree with you about the whole "skinny as a compliment" thing. People say that to me too and my ED likes it, but I know that it really shouldn't matter.

    Anyway, keep up the good work!<3

  3. Yeah I don't get as many skinny comments as I once did, but if I walk into a conversation about weight loss or exercise, people tell me to not even join in because I don't need to think about that stuff. Almost like they're mad at me! And who the hell said you can't exercise unless you're over weight?!

    Anyways, I'm glad you had fun with you friends. The more you're having fun and around others with no food "issues" the less your ED takes presidence over you life. You don't have time to think about food and restriting when you're having fun!!

    <3 Tori

  4. So glad you had fun with your friends!

    It makes me sad when people tell me that I'm skinny, because it just shows how distorted our culture's perception of beauty is. People equate size and beauty with value, when what really matters is who we are.

    Have a great week and stay strong!

  5. Glad you had a nice day! Mattress shops can be so much fun! Oh hub you're do right about the skinny compliment thing! It's only x physical attribute, snd if it's big healthy-then it's not even a good attribute! Xx

  6. loved this post :) I'm glad you were able to take away your own self-criticism and eat with your friends. Also, I know what you mean about being called skinny. It doesn't help much with motivation to recover and eat normally! you are such an inspiration :)

  7. YAY DANIELLE!!!! :-)
    I am so happy for you that you had such a fun day with your friends!!! I think it's great that you're giving J and C another chance while still being careful. It's so true what you wrote- when you are happy and having fun, there is just no room for the ED. I'm glad that you were able to have an awesome time with your friends without letting ED interfere! YOU GO GIRL! <3
    I agree with you- it's sad that skinny is considered a compliment (especially since in many cases, the person complimented could be skinny b/c of an ED). It's wonderful that you look to peoples' hearts instead of outside appearances. It may not seem like it, but there are other people like that out there (me!). I hope the world becomes more open-minded and less focused on appearances, too! I try to speak out about it when I can, in attempt to make a difference.
    Thank you so much for your amazing comments on my blog. You are such an inspiration to me and such a compassionate, incredible person! <3

  8. That's an awesome perspective!
    I get so weirded out sometimes. People talk abot my weight and I'm like "yeah, I'm working on it" and they are like "I WISH I HAD YOUR PROBLEM..."
    then go on to say "I wish they could suck some of my fat out and give it to you."

    I am always quick to assure them I would never wish my "problem" on anyone...not even the most evil person.

    But I'm comfortable being open about my disease (it comes with age. I am 32).

    Are you open with your friends? It might help you and also spread awareness of the cause.